how I fall

We've been through this before. I like my men a certain height, hair color, weight, eye color and even restrict dating criteria to one of about 11 majors (counting each of the engineering majors separately). I made generalizations about their personality, ambition, intelligence, relationship with their family...well anything really I could in order to narrow down what types of men I am attracted to. Why? Not sure, but we humans do like to put behaviors and people into nice little categories and make an excuse for efficiency.


Biggest thing I missed? How I met the last two guys I really liked (one that was a strong fling, one that I realized I may have been in love with for a while), and then "the ex". They didn't all share the same height or major or overall demeanor.

What made me attracted to these guys: (in chronological order from past to present)

1. getting hopelessly lost while walking to a teacher's office hours and being walked that direction. being asked if I wanted to come along to a party when I didn't have friends

2. making me feel instantly welcome at a party where I didn't know anyone. inviting me a 4th of July party when I didn't have plans or that many friends (because I was new to the city)

3. helping me look everywhere for my purse when I thought someone had stolen it (a camera was stolen there the night before)

These were the moments I started feeling an inexplicable attraction to these men. Something really struck me about them being thoughtful, caring and very geniune in their efforts. None of these guys were doing it to get in my pants (well, at least not immediately). All of them had met me either 30 seconds before or for less than 24 hours. I'm not sure how to characterize that trait. I sure as hell can't begin to imagine how to predict for or isolate and find that behavior. I think this means I'm meant to be single until that moment that fate intervenes when I'm lost, have lost something, or need a friend. My destiny is to wait it out.